In the first few weeks after I cut my hair, I remember telling a friend of mine that I felt nothing; nothing in the sense that I did not feel “free.”
I’ve watched a ton of videos where women would say that, essentially, they felt a weight lifted off of their shoulders when they cut their hair off. It’s possible that I became numb because again, I felt nothing. I was happy that the cut ended up looking great but was not sensing any sort of relief.
Months later, maybe it’s because the fact that I chopped off my hair has finally sunk in, I feel…free? It’s strange for me to say because I never thought of myself as someone who believed my hair was the epitome of my beauty; I just loved longer hair. The more I think about it, I realize how much I depended on my hair. I was so obsessed, in a sense, that I didn’t want to get trims to sabotage my length. Cutting my hair was out of the equation which is funny how I pulled a 180 and chopped it.
When I first began my natural hair journey, I preferred to transition as opposed to doing the big chop because, again - I was worried about how I would look with short hair. I’ve joked about it on my blog before but after reflecting, that was really me being tied to my hair equaling beauty.
I am so happy that I got myself out of that mentality; I do not hesitate when I see scissors nowadays, lol. To that friend I told that I felt nothing: girl, I was so wrong! I have to remind myself that it’s okay to feel certain things, even things I feel are trivial.
Please remember that your hair does not define your beauty. You are beautiful regardless!
Until next time, xx
Q: do you feel that your hair defines your beauty?
P. S. It’s almost my favorite holiday! I brought back the Christmas countdown from last year, down below
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